are you afraid of getting stuck in english?
你害怕被英語卡住嗎？
would you like to learn some strategies and tips on how to overcome situations where you get stuck or feel frustrated because you can't express yourself?
你是否願意學習一些策略和技巧來應對表達時的卡住或沮喪？
if the answer is yes, then this video is for you.
如果答案是肯定的，那麼這個**就是給你的。
hi, my name is hadar.
嗨，我是哈達爾。
i'm a non-native speaker of english, and i am here to help you speak english with clarity, confidence, and freedom.
我的母語不是英語，我在這裡幫助您清晰、自信、自由地說英語。
the idea for this video came about after i went live on instagram and i asked my followers, what was their biggest fear when it comes to communicating in english.
製作這個的靈感來自於我問我的追隨者，當我在Instagram上直播時，他們最大的恐懼是什麼。
and 80 percent of the people responded 'getting stuck when speaking'.
80%的人回答“說話時卡住了”。
for some people, they actually use the words 'getting stuck', others just said 'not finding the right words'.
對於一些人來說，他們實際上使用“卡住”這個詞，而另一些人只是說“找不到正確的詞”。
and ultimately that fear of not being able to say what you want to say, and that crippling feeling of silence that triggers a lot of people and makes them feel so afraid to communicate.
最終，這種無法表達自己想法的恐懼，以及對沉默的抑制，引發了許多人，使他們害怕交流。
so, in this video, i'm going to talk about why this is so scary, so we can understand the way we think and maybe overcome this fear, not by improving our english, but simply by improving the way we think about it.
所以在這篇**中，我將談談為什麼這如此可怕，以便我們能夠理解我們的思維方式，也許能夠克服這種恐懼，不是通過提高我們的英語，而是通過改善我們的思維方式。
but then i'm going to give you some strategies on how to come out of a situation where you get stuck: what words to use, what phrases to say, and some strategies on how to start over so you can actually say what you want to say confidently.
然後我會給你一些關於如何擺脫困境的策略：使用什麼詞，說什麼短語，以及一些重新開始的策略，這樣你就可以自信地表達你想說的話。
now, i know that when you want to say something and your brain goes blank, it is really scary.
我知道當你想說些什麼而你的大腦一片空白時，這真的很可怕。
i remember once when i was in acting school, i had a show and i was singing in front of everyone.
我記得有一次我在表演學校的時候，我有乙個節目，我要在大家面前唱歌。
and this was a song from a musical that i absolutely loved.
這是我非常喜歡的**劇中的一首歌。
and i practiced it a lot, and of course i knew all the words by heart.
我練習了很多，甚至記住了所有的單詞。
but then when i stood in front of everyone, i sang the first verse and then i got to the verse that i loved the most, like it was so profound to me, and i forgot all the words.
但是當我站在大家面前時，我唱了第一句歌詞，然後它來到了我最喜歡的歌詞，好像它對我來說太深了，結果我忘記了所有的歌詞。
and the music kept playing.
*一直以來**。
and my teacher, who was accompanying me, and she was playing the piano, she started singing for me, but i was already so stressed out that it didn't help.
和我一起彈鋼琴的老師開始為我唱歌，但我已經承受了很大的壓力，也無濟於事。
i don't even remember how i came out of this entire situation, i just remember staring at people, singing a few more words, and then le**ing the stage without looking at anyone.
我什至不記得我是如何擺脫這整個情況的，我只記得盯著人們，多唱了幾句，然後不看任何人就離開了舞台。
and i was so upset.
我很沮喪。 and that's not the only time it actually happened to me.
這不是我唯一一次遇到這種情況。
and it also happened to me in lives and in conversations.
這也發生在我的生活和談話中。
so i know how it feels.
所以我知道那是什麼感覺。
but, i also want you to know that it's a natural part of speaking a second language.
但是，我也想讓你知道，說第二語言是很自然的。
it's a natural part of speaking any language, your first language as well.
這是說任何語言的自然組成部分，您的母語也是如此。
you might black out at any given moment if you lose your train of thought, or if you're overwhelmed, or if you're not focused, especially when it's not your first language.
如果你徘徊、感到不知所措或難以集中注意力，尤其是當它不是你的第一語言時，你隨時可能會失去思路。
so don't feel bad when it happens.
所以當它發生時不要感到難過。
understand that it's a natural part of the language, and the more you practice, the more you speak, the less it will happen.
要明白，這是語言的自然組成部分，你練習得越多，說得越多，它發生的就越少。
but let's talk about why it triggers you so much, why it is so frightening.
但是，讓我們談談為什麼它如此觸動你，為什麼它如此可怕。
first, because it's really frustrating to want to say something and not being able to say it, right?
首先，想說點什麼卻說不出來真的很令人沮喪，對吧？
it's like, we are creatures who like to communicate, and if we want to say something and we can't, we feel limited, we feel like we don't h**e the tools that we h**e in our first language, and it's really, really frustrating.
我們是善於交際的生物，如果我們想說些什麼而不能說，我們會感到侷限，覺得我們的第一語言工具已經不復存在了，這真的非常非常令人沮喪。
and sometimes it can create anger and sadness even.
有時它甚至會引起憤怒和悲傷。
so, wanting to say something and not h**ing the tools to say it could be really, really frustrating.
因此，在沒有工具的情況下試圖表達一些東西可能會非常令人沮喪。
so that's the first thing.
這是第一點。
the second thing is that sometimes if we get stuck, we start thinking about what people think about us, right?
第二件事是，有時如果我們被困住了，我們就會開始思考人們對我們的看法，對吧？
what is their opinion about us and our english?
他們對我們和我們的英語有什麼看法？
and we get into the loop of not feeling good enough: "oh, they're thinking that i don't know english.
我們陷入了一種感覺很糟糕的迴圈：“哦，他們認為我不懂英語。
they're thinking that i can't communicate." and that creates more stress and anxiety because it really focuses on this fear that most of us experience of not being good enough, right, or being judged.
他們以為我無法溝通。 "這可能會導致更多的壓力和焦慮，因為我們大多數人都經歷過這種被評判的恐懼。
and we don't want to experience that because that triggers shame and humiliation, which are two emotions that us humans try to **oid as much as humanly possible.
我們不想經歷這種情況，因為它會引發羞恥和羞辱，這是我們人類盡可能避免的兩種情緒。
we don't want to experience that.
我們不想經歷這些。
therefore, we don't want to get stuck because we know that it might trigger these feelings.
所以我們不想陷入困境，因為我們知道這可能會引發這些感覺。
even though again, it is perfectly okay to get stuck.
即便如此，在言語中被“卡住”也是完全可以的。
and usually, people won't even think bad things about you because you get stuck, they might not even notice it.
通常，人們甚至不會因為你被困住而對你有不好的看法，他們甚至可能沒有注意到。
now, the third fear, and this is not a common fear, and i want you to think about it and to see maybe it actually hits home, is we don't wanna waste people's time.
第三種恐懼，不是一種常見的恐懼，我希望你們想一想，看看它是否真的打動了你的心，那就是我們不想浪費別人的時間。
especially when we speak to people whom we need something from, if we get stuck, we feel like we're wasting their time.
尤其是當我們與需要幫助的人交談時，如果我們陷入困境，我們會覺得自己在浪費他們的時間。
we say to ourselves things like, "oh, they're going to get impatient.
我們對自己說，“他們會變得不耐煩的。
they're not going to want to talk to me.
他們不想和我說話。
you know, it's not fair for them that they need to wait for me." and i understand that it's coming from a place of wanting the other person to feel good, but it's not helping you, right?
你知道，讓他們等我對他們來說是不公平的。 “我知道你這麼說是為了讓對方感覺良好，但這對你沒有幫助，對吧？
so feeling like you're wasting someone's time can immediately impact how you perform in english, and that fear could create a bigger fear around getting stuck.
因此，感覺自己在浪費別人的時間會立即影響你的英語成績，而這種恐懼會導致更大的恐懼感，讓你陷入困境。
and i want to tell you that if this is a thought that you're thinking, a hundred percent that it's compromising your ability to communicate freely and confidently.
我想告訴你，如果這是你的想法之一，它將 100% 影響你自由自信地溝通的能力。
all the things i talked about right now are limiting beliefs, beliefs that limit your full potential, limit your ability to communicate confidently and fluently.
我剛才談到的所有事情都是限制性的信念，這些信念限制了你的全部潛力和你自信和流利地溝通的能力。
and the good thing about a limiting belief is that it's a thought, and you can change thoughts, it's not a fact, it's not a reality.
限制信念的好處是，它只是乙個思想，你可以改變思想，這不是事實，也不是現實。
the tricky thing about limiting beliefs is that you think it's just you just interpreting the world around you.
限制信仰的棘手部分是你對周圍世界的解釋。
this is your reality.
這就是你的現實。
oh, i'm wasting someone's time." but it's not a fact, it's a belief.
哦，我在浪費別人的時間。 “但這不是事實，這是你的想法。
and as such, you can decide not to think it anymore.
因此，您可以決定不再考慮它。
you can change it to "people want to hear what i h**e to say. they are patient with me.
你可以把它改成“人們想聽我說的話，他們對我有耐心。
they appreciate my attempt to communicate with them" – instead of, "i'm wasting their time, they're going to think i'm stupid, they're going to think i don't know how to speak in english." okay?
他們感謝我試圖與他們交流“——而不是”我在浪費他們的時間，他們會認為我很愚蠢，他們會認為我不會說英語。 "好吧？
so, try to understand which one of the three things that i've listed are things that you are thinking that make this fear of getting stuck a lot bigger than it should be.
所以，試著了解我列出的三件事中的哪一件事是你正在考慮的事情，這樣這種對被卡住的恐懼就比它應該的要大得多。
and of course, if you can come up with other limiting thoughts, then write them in the comments below and share them with us.
當然，如果您能想出其他限制性的想法，請將它們寫在下面的評論中並與我們分享。
okay.好吧？
so now that we talked about the reasons why this is such a big fear, let's talk about what to do when you get stuck.
現在我們已經討論了為什麼這如此可怕，讓我們談談當你被卡住時該怎麼做。
when you get stuck, the first thing that you need to do is remind yourself that you are doing the best you can.
當你陷入困境時，你需要做的第一件事就是提醒自己，你正在盡力而為。
the more you get stressed out in a situation, the less likely you are to come out smoothly from this situation.
在壓力大的情況下，壓力越大，你就越不可能順利擺脫困境。
remind yourself that this is not your speech at the oscars, or this is not your biggest interview, and it's okay to get stuck.
提醒自己，這不是你在奧斯卡頒獎典禮上的演講，也不是你最重要的採訪，卡住也沒關係。
give yourself permission to get stuck, because when you are not stressed, when your blood pressure is lower, you're more likely to come up with a next word.
允許自己讓自己陷入困境，因為當你不感到緊張時，當你的血壓低時，你更有可能想到下乙個詞。
you're more likely to continue, as if nothing happened.
你更有可能繼續，就好像什麼都沒發生過一樣。
but when you get stressed out, you start thinking about it: "oh, i'm stuck.
但是當你壓力過大時，你就會開始想，“哦，我被困住了。
oh, they're going to think this, they're going to think that." and then your brain is so busy with the event of being stuck, then with what you actually want to say, right?
他們會這麼想，他們會這麼想。 "然後你的大腦被卡住的事件所佔據，而不是你真正想要表達的東西，對吧？
what is the word that i'm looking for?
我在找什麼詞？
so, take a deep breath, remind yourself it's okay to get stuck, and continue.
所以，深吸一口氣，提醒自己被卡住是可以的，然後繼續前進。
and then, what i recommend for you to do is this: first, you can just acknowledge it by saying, "oh, i lost my train of thought", or "i think i'm confusing this, let me start over", or "let me rephrase it".
然後，我建議你這樣做：首先，你可以承認這一點，說“我分心了”，或者“我想我很困惑，讓我重新開始”，或者“讓我重新表述一下”。
and then you want to start over from the beginning of the idea or the beginning of the sentence.
然後你想從想法的開頭或句子的開頭重新開始。
your brain will find a way to bypass the part where you got stuck and get to the end of the idea.
你的大腦會找到一種方法來繞過你陷入的部分，到達思想的盡頭。
remember that you h**e a lot of words to use.
請記住，您有很多單詞可以使用。
don't focus on that one word you can't remember and feel like, "oh, now i won't be able to say this".
不要把注意力集中在那個你不記得的詞上，然後覺得“我現在不能說這個”。
you can find a word that is similar, you can find an entire sentence that explains it differently.
你可以找到乙個相似的詞，你可以找到乙個不同的句子來解釋它。
you know how many times in the middle of a live or a video that i'm recording, i can't find a certain word that i'm thinking about or that i want to say, and then i end up saying something slightly differently.
你知道有多少次，當我在直播或錄製**時，當我找不到我想說的某個詞時，最後說了一些稍微不同的話。
sometimes it's not as good as it could be.
有時它不能按預期工作。
sometimes it actually takes me to a better place.
有時我表達得更好。
so you never know, you just h**e to go with the flow.
所以你永遠不知道，你只需要順其自然。
just like you're going on a tour and sometimes you want to make a right, and sometimes you will make a left, you'll end up getting to the same destination.
這就像你要去旅行一樣，有時你想右轉，有時你想左轉，你最終會到達同乙個目的地。
but if you find yourself on this path where you h**e two roads and you don't know what to do, if you just stay there and get stuck, nothing good is going to come out of it, you're not going to get to your destination.
但是，如果你發現自己在這條路上有兩個岔路口，不知道該怎麼辦，如果你停在那裡被卡住，就不會有好的結果，你也不會到達目的地。
so just find another way.
讓我們找到另一種方法。
and one of the best ways to do that is to start over.
最好的方法之一是重新開始。
if you can't think of a specific word, let go.
如果你想不出乙個具體的詞，就放手吧。
practice letting go of a thought or an idea or an entire sentence, and either start over, use a different word, or just say something completely different.
練習放棄乙個想法、觀點或整個句子，要麼重新開始，要麼使用不同的詞，要麼說完全不同的話。
it's going to make things a lot lighter and also make you feel a lot more confident when speaking.
它會讓事情變得容易得多，也會讓你在說話時感到更加自信。
and the most important thing, don't try to hide it.
最重要的是，不要試圖隱藏它。
you speak english as a second language.
您將英語作為第二語言。
you are entitled to make mistakes and to get stuck.
你有權犯錯誤並陷入困境。
so, sometimes just saying, "oh, i'm totally stuck right now".
所以，有時它只是說，“哦，我現在完全被困住了。
and even asking for help is the best strategy ever, and also an opportunity to learn.
即使尋求幫助也是乙個很好的策略和學習的機會。
so, don't make a big deal out of it, don't make it more than what it is, and just understand that it's a natural part of the learning process.
所以，不要太認真，不要太認真，只要明白這是學習過程中自然的一部分。
all right.
好吧。 so now i h**e a question for you.
現在，我有乙個問題要問你。
what do you do when you get stuck?
當你被卡住時你會怎麼做？
let us know in the comments and let's start a conversation and share our knowledge with everyone, with the entire community, because that's when the best ideas appear.
在評論中告訴我們，讓我們開始對話並與每個人、整個社群分享我們的知識，因為那是最好的想法出現的時候。
all right.
好吧。 i hope you enjoyed it.
我希望你喜歡這個問題**。
if you did, consider subscribing to my channel and sharing it with people you think might need it.
如果您願意，可以考慮訂閱我的頻道，並與您認為可能需要的人分享。
you can also check out my website at hadarshemesh. com where i h**e a ton of free resources for you to be able to speak english, practice english, and feel confident, clear and free when speaking.
你也可以訪問我的 **hadarshemeshcom，有大量的免費資源供您練習英語，提高英語口語，並在說英語時感到自信、清晰和自由。
h**e a beautiful, beautiful rest of the day.
祝你今天安息快樂。
and i will see you next week in the next video.
我們下週見。
bye.再見。